Conflict ! Conflict! Conflict! Is that we are always messed up with the conflicts, kind of struggle within oneself or our mind has really captured that conflict. Conflict of mind is Internal or External Conflict , the one which is exhibited in front of others that overt behaviour can be the outcome of external conflict related to situations we face but somehow another one which can be more dangerous , is the internal conflict,like a termite it can destroy our internal peace and mind.

Internal conflicts are the root cause of various problems like depression stress , frustration, burst out and which ultimately give rise to various health illness. We all someway or the other are confronted by that conflict. It is a covert one which keeps on going within oneself and it can ultimately capture our mind. Somehow it is going rule over our behaviour too. So its really important that we should know about the concept of Conflicts within us , within our mind.

CONFLICT OF MIND: A struggle within oneself


Conflict is simply differing ideas or actions, often related to the selfish pursuit of needs (known and unknown) that end in a state of unrest. It is a necessary and permanent part of life. The important thing to remember is that conflict is natural. It can be a slight conflict that causes no harm or an egregious conflict that results in irreparable damage.

In psychology when two or more incompatible things goes on in our mind, or when the arousal of two or more strong motives that cannot be solved together can give rise to CONFLICT in our MIND. Conflicts are often unconscious, in the sense that the person cannot clearly identify the source of his distress.

A person who has a lot of inner conflicts would usually exhibit the below behaviors:

Is usually easily influenced by the opinions and point-of-views of others.
Feels guilt/shame about some natural drives/impulses in oneself.
Finds it difficult to make decisions and is always doubtful about the decisions made.

Psychology Facts

There are different types of conflicts: Intrapersonal or Interpersonal conflicts.

Interpersonal Conflict

intergroup conflict
Conflict that exists between two people is called interpersonal conflict. The conflict is external to each person and exists only between the two people. Interpersonal conflict can be seen any time two people disagree on a topic. We see it in people as young as toddlers when they fight over a single toy and as old as two nursing home patients when they argue over politics. Because we have different likes and dislikes, enjoy different things, and view the world from different perspectives, interpersonal conflicts are bound to happen.

Intrapersonal Conflict

Remembering that the prefix ‘intra-‘ means originating internally, you can see that intrapersonal conflict is when you feel conflicted about your own thoughts or actions. Maybe you’ve always told people they should help the homeless and then, when you see a homeless person on the street, you become afraid and turn away. The disconnect between your words and actions may cause internal turmoil. Intrapersonal conflict is always a psychological battle for the person experiencing it. While intrapersonal conflict can be difficult, its resolution results in a stronger understanding of yourself.

In the decision-making process, psychologists have discovered three types of conflict: approach-approach, approach-avoidance, and avoidance-avoidance.

Approach-avoidance conflict occurs when an individual is faced with a decision to pursue or avoid something that has advantages and disadvantages. This form of conflict involves only one goal.

approach avoidance

Approach-Approach conflict occurs in our mind when a conflict between two desired gratifications occurs. When a youth has to choose between two attractive and practicable careers, may lead to some vacillation but rarely to great distress.

approach approach

Avoidance-Avoidance conflict : A conflict between two dangers or threats (avoidance-avoidance conflict) is usually more disturbing. People have conflict when they have two outcomes that are equally undesirable. An example of this type of conflict would be a situation where you have to decide between doing unwanted homework (avoidance) or doing unwanted house chores (avoidance).

avoidance avoidance conflict

Research on Wheels

Mental, physical and social health, are vital strands of life that are closely interwoven and deeply interdependent. Mental disorders affect people of all countries and societies, individuals at all ages, women and men, the rich and the poor, from urban and rural environments. Depression is more likely following particular classes of experience those involving conflict, disruption, losses and experiences of humiliation or entrapment. Many people living amidst the rages of conflict suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder.



A research was done by the psychologists to study about the effect of conflicts which lead to depression on the people of Kashmir where a low-intensity-conflict has been going on for the last seventeen years. A cross sectional study of general population was conducted to determine the characteristics of depression  arised due to conflict in Kashmir.  It was concluded from the study that the  Females have a higher prevalence of depression in all the age groups than males and it is highest in the age group 26 to 35 years (68.66%).

Women in Kashmir have been closely associated with political mobilizations and continue to be victims in the ongoing cycle of violence and abuse. They continue to confront and cope with psychological and physical violence, dislocation and disillusionment of a situation of war – as women and as members of a community. Yet their voices or experience of the conflict remains absent. The invisibility of women’s voices through the conflict emerges from the presumption that women are external, far removed from the scene of actual combat between militants and security forces. The false dichotomies of home vs. war front were appropriately highlighted during the Kosovo conflict which brought home the social, economic and psychologically traumatic consequences of the conflict for women.

  Some Tips:

  •  Internal conflicts generally arises if you have low self esteem so value yourself.
  • Lack of confidence within oneself can increase internal conflict so boost up your confidence level.
  • Conflict within mind can decrease your power of decision making so always try out some ways to ease yourself.
  • Don’t be rigid in your views or thoughts expand your thinking and develop some new perspectives.
  • Always try to find out an alternative solution to your problem which will definitely help you to come out of your internal conflicts.